1. If you EVER forget that Niggas Ain't Shit, CHILL OUT!
You evidently are so far gone into this 'like' or
'love' thing that you have lost touch with the real
world. Do not allow yourself to make exceptions with
the rule, either; that's how you get hurt.
2. If you find yourself calling him more than two times a
day, CHILL OUT! You fail to realize that HE should be
calling YOU, seeing as traditionally, HE is the
aggressor. He won't be knocking down any walls to talk
to you if you make yourself too accessible. Get some
Ritalin and some self esteem, please.
3. If you find yourself thinking about a man that is NOT
your husband at work, in class, or during another
fairly fundemental activity, CHILL OUT! There is a
time and place for everything, and a nigga's time does
not correspond with the time you have set aside to
handle your business. This is also a sign that you
need to get a life.
4. If your roommates/ friends know just as much about this
guy as you do, CHILL OUT! You are talking about him too
much, and it's probably annoying to your friends; they
probably just haven't told you yet.
5. If you think of plots to uncover information that he
has not told you himself, ie. finding out who is at his
house at 2:00 in the morning, checking the numbers on
his pager, asking his friends stupid questions, CHILL
OUT! You are TOO PRESSED! Take the time that you spend
playing FBI to better yourself, either physically,
mentally, spiritually, etc., ie. exercising, reading a
book, or praying.
6. If you get mad because he doesn't acknowledge you the
way YOU think he should, CHILL OUT! You may very well
be correct, but you must remember that Niggas Ain't
Shit, and that sometimes, we as women do make big deals
out of things that really aren't that serious. I
personally prefer a man to do special things for and
concerning me because he cares enough to do it, not
because I bitched about it for SO long. Think about it.
7. If you find yourself telling him how to do EVERYTHING,
like he's some kind of child or something, CHILL OUT!
Either he is not mature enough, not your type, or you
are too demanding. Either way, you're going to drive
him away and yourself into depression.
8. If you are just totally heartbroken because things don't
seem to be working out, CHILL OUT! He is not the last
man on earth, and dissimilarity is not synonymous to
rejection. Just because you like the way he looks or his
popularity or something else superficial like that, it
doesn't mean you two will be compatible. Just because
you two aren't compatible, it doesn't mean that there is
something wrong with you. That's life, baby. Give
yourself a facial and get over it.
9. If you find yourself losing touch with your friends
because you spend SO much time talking to him, CHILL OUT!
If there are no rings on your fingers (and I am talking
about ENGAGEMENT rings), there is no need for you to be
smothering each other like that. I used to be in the
Girl Scouts, and we had some rule saying "Find new
friends, but keep the old; One is Silver and the other
is Gold". The 'gold' represents your friends that you
will complain to about HIM when he does you wrong and
after he is gone. Think about it.
10. If you obviously are making a bigger effort to advance
your relationship than he is, CHILL OUT! You probably
ask yourself why you are putting out 110% and he isn't.
Its because at this point, he doesn't have to. YOU'RE
doing it for him! Make a nigga WORK for your love and
affection. If he is getting it for free, then there is
no need for him to put out anything. Get a hobby, man.
11. If you plan to do something concerning him and you
find yourself saying 'I wonder if he will think I'm
crazy', CHILL OUT! The answer is YES, and the fact that
you even thought about it constitutes a problem with
your scheme. Sleep on it, see the difference a day
makes, and remember, RELAXATION REPELLS ANXIETY.
12. If you find yourself comparing the man you're with to
a love song CHILL OUT! Unless you hear wedding bells
ringing, that song on the radio probably isn't
accurate. Your song may change to one of sorrow if you
get too hazy.
13. If you think that he has never lied to you, CHILL OUT!
Evidently, you didn't pay attention on the N.A.S. page.
YOU MUST ALWAYS REMEMBER: To keep YOURSELF and YOUR FEELINGS as priorities. There is no man who's impact on you is serious enough to take away from the time you set aside for the improvement of your life. You are beautiful, special, and compatible with A man, not EVERY man. Before you love someone else, you must love YOURSELF. AND THE MOST IMPORTANT RULE OF ALL, THAT EXPLAINS ANYTHING THAT I HAVEN'T SPECIFICALLY SAID IS THAT...... NIGGAS AIN'T SHIT!!!
thoma017@harpo.tnstate.edu
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